Saturday, August 5

Appendix A

Codependency is not a simple concept. We human are susceptible to codependency because of our sinful tendency to use defense mechanisms to fool ourselves. In codependent relationships, deceitful games are played. In addition, important Christian principles are often taken out of context and abused. For example, "Wives, submit to your husbands" is a biblical principle; but, taken out of context, the husband can avoid his responsibility to be loving while using his leadership role as a club to try to keep his wife in an unhealthy codependent relationship.
God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent. He wants us to avoid addictions of any kind, including that of unhealthy codependency. Paul described this balance in Galatians 6:2-5 when he told us to bear one another's "over-burdens," yet reminded us that every man shall carry his own load in terms of personal responsibility.
The most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish a relationship with Christ Himself.... When we do we are free to develop healthy relationships with others because of the relationship with Christ.
by Dr. Frank Minirth

5 comments:

  1. hmmm.....this sounds familiar....

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  2. I have to admit that I am a bit sad to see you take a break from blogger. I know, I know...I jumped ship long ago, but you are part of the old guard. And, when the old guards start closing shop, there goes the neighborhood. Y'know?

    Anyway, thanks for letting us be privy to your thoughts and ideas this last year and a half. You've been an encouragement on more than one occasion.

    And, promise me, no matter what...you'll keep writing and you'll keep creating. Even if your forum isn't so...public.

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  3. angie8:20 AM

    creth! you have got to post!!! it's been too long. :(
    angie

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  4. The bloggers are dropping like flies.

    :)

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  5. angie7:06 AM

    creth, where are you!!! i need a new word from you! i keep checking back and all i find is "Appendix"! ;)

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